Do you act wisely?

 I am currently reading some great material and this morning it said:

The wind cannot shake a mountain. Neither praise nor blame moves the wise!

He really got me thinking about how many times we throw our energy out the window and let someone or something outside of us control our moods, emotions, and energy at any given moment. I shared with you last time about my radical return to Joburg for a while, and it was a real transition and hard time for me to readjust to a whole new life so quickly, in a good way overall. But as I slowly integrate all the changes, I find that I can access my wisdom core much more easily. My mature self is able to help me in difficult situations. No, I don't always get it right, but I'm always up for a confrontation.

Wisdom comes from understanding and applying what we learn every day. Wisdom is in the here and now, in every moment you choose to live it. Wisdom is much more than knowledge. Wisdom is not talking about the concept of death, wisdom is staring into the eyes of the man in the oncoming car in your lane and wondering if this is your last breath... wondering if you're going to crash.

Everyday life throws experiences our way. These appear at first glance as "positive or negative" in terms of how easy or difficult they are for us to handle. They come in the form of people, places, conversations, surprise moments, accidents, illnesses, financial losses, etc. But the reality lies not in what shows up at our door, but in how we choose to respond to it. We have a choice at that point. So our reactions have a profound effect on whether we learn positive or negative lessons from them.

If we choose to focus only on the resulting problems, the lack, the hardship, etc., we are likely to end up bitter, indignant, limited and with a victim mentality. However, if we choose to see the blessings, insights, or gifts of the experience, it immediately becomes a great opportunity to learn and grow. Approached from the latter perspective, we are able to accumulate more and more wisdom that we can use for the rest of our lives and also share with others.

PRACTICAL EXERCISE:

Set aside a time when you won't be disturbed.

Review the past week, or continue as needed, and start writing down the so-called "negative" experiences or interactions you've had. Try to find at least three that you can work with. As you write the event, be as specific as possible and be sure to include the outcome or result. E.g. - Last night my husband and I were arguing when we both got home from work at 6 am. I did not feel supported when describing my frustrations of the day. I just wanted to blow off some steam and ended up in a bad mood and very quiet all night. I went to bed angry and hurt, etc.

Then write the same event again, this time from what you feel might be their experience of the situation. Write it as if you were the other person from their perspective.

What new knowledge do you have now?

Take it one step further… looking back at this event from your perspective, ask yourself what you could have done differently that is within your control.

If you had taken full responsibility for yourself and behaved in a mature, rational, and reasonable manner, what other outcome might have influenced you? Now ask yourself what is the gift you can get out of this situation.

In short, what is the wisdom you now have about yourself that you can immediately apply to other areas of your life?

knowledge Wisdom is timeless, expansive and positive, wisdom helps us to have peace and acceptance.

I wish you a glorious day wherever you are, and hope to hear from you if I can help you in any way to find meaning in your life and where you are.

What I know for sure is that my recent transition has made me much more sensitive to transition, pain, letting go, choices, new beginnings, and the effects of stress and lack of sleep. I am honored by what comes my way and I know that you too can overcome your trials.